How INFPS View The Other Personality Types

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Here’s a list of how INFPs get along with every other personality type. If you’re not familiar with the Myer-Brigg’s personality test, you can take it here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

INTJ

What a strange and peculiar creature. Fascinated by science, and logic, with unparalleled ability to insult without intending to, with the excuse that they are simply stating the “facts”, the INTJ is someone the INFP does not really understand. However, being both introverts, and intuitive, on a certain level, they can get along; they both share a need to stay by themselves for long periods, and can have insights which other people do not. However, it would be a superficial friendship at best: the INTJ is simply too logical and pragmatic.

INTP

INFPs get along rather well with INTPs. To us, INTPs are rather like us, except a little more pragmatic and logical. Like INFPs, they tend to be eccentric, and rather loner-like, and sometimes, unlike INFPs, have obvious presentation and sartorial problems. However, we tend to like the same things, and find the same things interesting—glow-in-the-dark jellyfish, anyone?—and the same types of books and films.

ENTJ

Oooh. What a masterful and interesting creature—from afar, at least. ENTJs, for INFPs, are the epitome of the dazzling man or woman we could never date in real life, but whom we enjoy watching from afar. They are so confident, so charismatic, that it sometimes takes our breath away; but they can also be brash and intimidating, which makes us want to shrink into our shells. They are like the prince or princess leading an army of supporters, never to be touched, and only to be watched.

ENTP

ENTPs, for INFPs, are also rather attractive. Their verbal sparring, often on intellectual or logical topics, knows no bounds, and INFPs are entertained by their wit, cleverness and the verbal wordsmiths they are. In turn, ENTPs, if they ever get a chance to read an INFP’s writing, find them rather insightful and adorable creatures, but never enough to get into a romantic relationship with them. This is because INFPs hold none of the verbal wit and excitement that ENTPs need to feel good about themselves and a relationship in their life.

INFJ

Trouble is, people who are too similar can clash, and this is sometimes what happens when INFPs and INFJs meet. We’re rather like the same person, only one is a little more organized and less scatterbrained than the other, and strangely enough, that combination can make for a relationship that doesn’t seem to work. I’ve known one other INFJ in my life, and while we did agree on nearly absolutely everything, there was no connection or affection in the relationship: in fact, it was rather awkward and on edge, simply because we felt as if we could read each other’s minds, and probably could.

INFP

Well, I know INFP isn’t exactly another type of personality, but there are other INFPs in this world, and we do tend to meet each other every now and then, and, in general, if all goes well, we tend to get along like a house on fire. Rather than feeling awkward or as if our minds are being read, we feel as though we have found a kind of friendship-soulmate. However, since we are both Feeling, feelings may be discussed a little too often in the relationship, to the point where boredom sets in. If that happens, all you have to do is remember the positives of the relationship: of being understood, having someone who always has your back, and someone who is full of the same neuroses and anxieties you are.

ENFJ

ENFJ’s are OK. Just OK. They are bold, they are extroverted, they are friendly, love to be surrounded by people and the centre of attention, and for INFPs, they can be a little too “in your face” sometimes. Just sometimes. What’s more, ENFJ’s have an annoying habit of trying to draw an INFP out of his or her shell, and make her do things she doesn’t want to do, like throw a 21st party, for example, or make a speech in front of many people, simply because they feel INFPs need to put themselves out there a little more. So, in general, they are just OK.

ENFP

ENFPs are absolutely wonderful creatures. Since they share all the same functions as us, except for introversion, they are, in essence, really rather like extroverted versions of ourselves. Instead of being closeted away inside bedrooms, however, ENFPs are out there, getting things done, putting their ideals into action, and making things happen. If they want to run a charity for their favourite cause, then it is going to happen. If they want their dream to come true, then they’re going to build it. They are brave enough to put everything on the line for their ideals, and see them through to the end, to the point where their idealistic visions exist in reality—and us INFPs, while we love them, are just a little jealous, because we tend to dream but never act.

ISTJ

INFPs and ISTJs do not tend to get along. ISTJs find INFPs to be a little too wishy-washy, and too stuck in their own dreamland, while INFPs find ISTJs irritatingly logical and pragmatic, to the point where their daydreams and ideals get trampled by them. They are not a good match, in general, and rub each other the wrong way more often than most.

ISFJ

INFPs like ISFJs. As the “defenders” in the Mye-Brigg’s personality type group, INFPs see ISFJs as people that will protect them in times of need. INFPs like to be protected; we are, after all, the children of the Myer-Briggs family. So, we kind of look up to them as an older sister or brother, sometimes in spite of their age. They are the ones who will listen to us, and then propone our ideas in front of other people, working towards causes that we believe in.

ESTJ

We admire ESTJs, little ones, but we do not befriend them. ESTJs are whirlwinds of productivity and pragmatism. They are leaders, they get things done, they are efficient, and we view them sometimes the way one might view a very efficient, highly effective and super efficacious robot. In fact, we admire them so much, we’d much rather sit back and let them do most of the work that we dislike: managing people, telling people what to do, organising events and activities, putting forward ideas for consideration. However, in terms of relationships, INFPs and ESTJs simply do not see eye-to-eye, and any bond, be it romantic or platonic, is sure to end unfavourably.

ESFJ

Like ENTJs, we sometimes admire and view ESFJs from afar. They are such warm, people-friendly, and oftentimes attractive individuals, with such a wide network of friends, that it can sometimes be intimidating just to watch them. However, ESFJs are often happy to welcome the sweet, gentle INFPs into the folds of their social circle, and while INFPs won’t get along with everyone, and will often disappear halfway through the event or party, they are grateful for the ESFJ’s kindness, warm-heartedness and friendliness.

ISTP

INFPs do not understand ISTPs. They live entirely in the world of things, of reality, and love to engage in hands-on activities, whereas we are much more concerned with the intangible, dreams, ideas and stories. However, like most other types which are very different from us, we tend to view them with a certain degree of fascination, and, yes, this can lead to romantic attraction, although ISTPs, like INFPs, do not understand us, and find us rather strange and removed from life.

ISFP

We love ISFPs! They are adventurous, creative and bold, with a certain flair that makes us want to whoop! They are often very creative artists or musicians, and can be very unique and special, in their own way, just like INFPs. However, they are a lot more bold than INFPs, and can engage in risk-taking behaviours, which is something foreign to us, and we would rather discourage rather than encourage in our ISFP friends.

ESTP

ESTPs are…nice. They very popular. Very adventurous. Very bold, and pretty, or handsome. Very charismatic. All in all, they’re a bit too “much” for us. While ESTP’s appreciate the creativity of INFPs, they often get bored of us, of our ideals and our many, many dreams and ideas, while we, over time, get tired of the high energy of the ESTP, and want to crawl away to take a nap somewhere. So, overall, a bad match, in terms of relationships, but there is something the two types can share.

ESFP

Another strange and foreign creature. They are extroverted, and always want to entertain other people, not feeling at all afraid when they are in the limelight. Us INFPs simply do not understand them, not one bit: though we do appreciate the heart and feeling they put into everything that they do, the love they have for other people, and the way they are free-spirited and unique, never letting other people or society tie them down or tell them who they should be.

 

 

 

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42 thoughts on “How INFPS View The Other Personality Types”

  1. I am not sure about your assessment of the INFJ. I think that really depends on who each individual is, and what their personal experiences are. The INFJ and INFP are not similar at all as far as their cognitive functions. The only thing in common there is the introvertedness. I (INFJ) personally have come across an INFP that was everything I had always looked for in life. But then, we both are much older and we have had a lot of experience in failing relationships and by far found our similarities to be a god send. Maturity has a lot to do with relationships, that and the willingness and ability to communicate. When you find that other person, regardless of MBTI type, it is a recipe for a long lasting journey.

    1. You’re completely right. It does take maturity for anyone to get along with anyone else, regardless of their type. However, from my personal experience, and based on the experiences of other INFPs on the Internet, there are sometimes clashes between the two personality types. Thank you for reading. 🙂

      1. Everyone is different. I have an INFJ friend, best friend actually. She means the world to me as I know I mean the world to her too. We’ve been friends for 15 years, we’ve grown up together, had each other’s back… We clash sometimes, but I can assure you, having an INFJ in your life is wonderful,, specially if you share same tastes and hobbies. (Also I believe my mom’s an INFJ, and of course I love her despite all our different points of view about almost everything)

    2. I completely agree with this. I have an infj cousin, who if we weren’t cousins we probably would be best friends. As an infp myself, we are also wildly different, she is so stuck within dominant ni that she brings out the extrovert in me. weird. I also feel like the description for enfp was off, sounded like extroversion was mistaken for judging. Take for example an ISTJ will get a lot more work done than an ESTP maybe it’s different with fi though, I’m not an expert on functions. Great post overall though 😊 awesome to get different perspectives, especially on stuff like this that are hard to pin down.

      1. Definitely! We are not trapped by our types—any type can get along with other types. This post was just about the stereotypes of the different types, and the fact that, in the iNFJ case in particular, many INFPs found themselves clashing with that particular type. Have a great day. 🙂

        1. I am infp. I have clashed with infj’s. I thought it must be a sure thing then between us. But it wasn’t purported as so online where i would read about it. So i considered its just my experience so far.. Finally there was one recently i did not feel that with. I did not feel a clash. So my take on this right now, seeing a debate has been posed is this: maybe the truth is that if we are going to clash with an infj all of our similarities will then not matter. Perhaps if we are going to clash with an infj there will actually be a highlight on our differences. Like if you painted us both into one painting, melding us into one canvas. It would be the night sky. The dark sky represents depth. The stars represent how our differences stand out on a background like that. The darker that painted sky is the more peace we find together. I do not believe that this is a case where similarities offer an automatic connection. Our similarities can lead to a lack of clashing. But it is not an automatic given between us. We assume that similarity means connection. This is a 2D thinking. But dynamics come in to play.

          1. I meant not to say our similarities won’t then matter but that they won’t then be an advantage.

  2. I am an INFP I have a friend and roommate for the past 7 years . We’re tight and we get along great. We both understand each other and seldom have issues. I know the can be a bit bossy and emotionally detached, but I’d do anything for her .

    1. Thank you Ben, I’m so glad it was accurate! 🙂 Yes, people can clash with ISFP’s, but generally that happens because we’re both artistic types, only ISFPs tend to be a bit more bold and louder about it, and that similarity can create some friction. Like does not attract like, in this case.

    2. Isfp’s are my personal favorite type. But i do score high in sensing functions. Maybe that’s why? Don’t know. I am definitely (even unfortunately) infp tho.
      I was raised by an intp mom that forced me, thank goodness, to develop my logic. But it also forced me to see the limits in her logic. Consequently i do understand intj’s. And feel more connection for them than to intp’s. Intp’s do after all represent that which drove me nuts all my life. Haha, my mom. (Not to say i don’t love my mom to pieces and have an amazing relationship with her. I do).
      My past experience with istp’s was that i gave them a ‘guilt complex for their lack of emotions’ (their words not mine). That hurt to see them feel bad, unnecessarily i thought. I blame myself for things not lasting. I have a high need for affection and that just wasn’t something the istp’s i knew were comfortable with. That is also what i was directly told by them, not an assumption. And I was unable to adapt.
      I am only sharing. I am not on here to debate accuracy. IMO you lay out clearly when examples are personal anecdotal or not always applicable. In fact I’m finding you to be the only writer I’ve come across represented as an infp that sticks to and flows with the facts. Other writing I’ve found is nothing more than marshmallow clouds or else it gets lost trying to please. I’m sharing this in counter to the flak that i see towards you here.
      For these writings, Thank you for your invaluable contributions.

      1. Thank you so much! And thank you for sharing. My sister is actually an ISTP and she can be extremely logical at times. Probably scoring high in sensing has something to do with it, I don’t score high in sensing at all. 🙂

  3. Funny what you said about ENFJ’s, I’ve read that they are the ideal compatibility for INFP’s.

  4. Funny what you said about ENFJ’s. I’ve read that they are the ideal compatibility to INFP’s.

    1. In my experience as well. They are overbearing. I love them. But it would definitely for instance take an exception for me to be in a one on one relationship with an enfj.
      They are, the ones I’ve known, the absolute best of people. But they are still E’s and still J’s (lucky them) at the end of the day. Still a big personality at the end of the day.
      I think if i did not as an individual have such a high need for affection (which the enfj’s in my life are always willing and ready to give me) then i would perhaps not suffer the aggravation. I’m very resistant to being led. And the enfj is definitely the shephard. That is an intolerable experience for me.

    2. ENFJ here. This makes me sad. We aren’t as extraverted as you’ve made us sound. We’re actually a bit more reserved. And we don’t like being the center or attention. We’d prefer others to be. We can be bossy, yes, but I wouldn’t push someone to come out of their shell. That’s kind of the point – to love people where they’re at and empower them however THEY need. Not to push them how “I see fit”. Wildly different. Disappointed that we are stuffed in such a little box labeled “just ok”. 😕👎🏼

      1. I’m so sorry if I boxed you in by my description of ENFJs. But my descriptions are just for fun and not set in stone – they’re based on only the ENFJs I’ve met. Because personality is a spectrum, there are many different types of ENFJs. Some might be bossy, others might not be at all. When it comes to personality, it’s best to look at the individual rather than the four Myer-Briggs letters.

      2. I love my enfjs, as a fellow infp. The introverted extroverts, the logical dreamers, the planning uplifters…
        I hope that makes you feel better. ❤

  5. Thanks for sharing. I am a mid-20 INFP male and more on the logical and assertive side, so often I do not have issue with being productive and asserting myself. So just my subjective opinion is that I actually feel understood by and look up to INTJ the most. You seem to praise ENFP a lot as a go-getter but that regard I actually reserve more for INTJ and ENTJ. ENFP I’ve met are too similar to me with almost the same cognitive bias and weaknesses.

    While INTJ is often on a whole different level of perspectives, I see myself on equal footing with ENTJ. ENFJ, like ESFJ, are often too emotional and superficial for me. I don’t get along with sensors in general, especially at work. They are really matter-of-fact and can beat you up by pulling you down to their level…

    1. That’s really interesting, how you’re more logical and assertive despite being an INFP. Maybe your functions lean more towards Thinking, Sensing and Judging than they do Feeling, Intuition and Perceiving. Sensors can pull you down to their level? Hmm. You might be right. I’ve met quite a few sensors and I haven’t got along very well with many of them. I think it’s fascinating to meet all different kinds of INFPs. Thank you so much for your comment. 🙂

          1. Wow this is exciting for me. This is like said fascinating :). I too feel kinship with intj (and for me also entp). And now that you mention it sensors do pull you down to their level. That is exactly how I experienced it the first times. But i’ve long since realized I love it! I feel that they are grounding me. I love feeling that and being around that energy. I do remind myself that my mind needs to soar and to accept that as well also. I feel wholesome around sf types (except not always esfp). And balanced around st types. Although any t types can wear me out, I appreciate their mental stamina.
            Oh and about entj i do admire them so much. But would avoid relationships or at least professional relationships with them. But outside of work i find myself connecting with the fact that they are deeply guarded. Many of them wrestle with truly allowing another into their heart. But unlike the entp’s I’ve known they are not comfortable with it. They struggle with it and feel they need someone to allow in. But they have a trust issue and can never find someone ‘suitable’.
            And about enfp, i have yet to meet an enfp that will admit we are alike.
            Esfj, i love them too. There just seems to be harmony. They don’t put their agendas onto others. They are warm, inviting, caring and concerned. They’re like the chillness that enfj claims to be. I don’t think i have ever dated an esfj but i so far really dig them. I would definitely have to put isfj in this category. But they can get very anti-expansive and conservative quick on your butt, lol. So i don’t feel as comfortable around them. But i see esfj, isfp, isfj, enfj and infp as warm/soft and i really enjoy that. I guess i judge based on an ability to nurture those around you. Since i need that. Lots of that.
            Thanks to yall for the fun of writing this all out, and exploring other’s experiences 🙂

  6. INFP here and I disagree with some of these (sorry about my english, by the way, not my mother language). I actually admire ISTJs a lot and I find ENFJs completely mesmerizing… from afar as well. I don’t think they’re so pushy, I’m just afraid to disappoint them and hold them back for my sake, since our energy level is very different… About ENTPs, I admire them from afar too, but don’t want to interact. I think that’s all.

    1. Hello fellow INFP. I think it’s great that you disagree, it helps us to learn more about the different personality types. My thinking is, each type of personality also have their different types, which means every ENTP can be different from other ENTPs, hence why we’ve had different experiences with the same personality type. It’s happened to me before, too. I didn’t like one ISTJ, but I liked another ISTJ, so I probably should do an update on these posts. Thank you for your comment. 🙂

    2. You could also have a different perspective after living with a certain type . Not a guarantee, just something to keep in mind. Ej’s especially have a persona at home that can be deeply different than the one they have in public. Now that i mention it that could be part of why some perceive them as false (‘fake’). But i think its just because they are so highly extroverted and also efficient that it literally by mechanism compartmentalizes their home life, home self, and can hide their emotional needs. In the case of esfj deeper emotional needs than what is shown. And with entj deeply complex emotional needs. With enfj deeply complex emotional persona. Estj i don’t have experience with outside of work. But i have read that they too are a different ‘soft’ person at home. I can’t vouch for that or add details though as i’ve had no experience outside of work. I sometimes wonder if one of my sisters is estj? But she has personality disorder, so i don’t think looking at her would give good insight.

      1. I think i switched enfj and entj there. But they are both complex and deeply needing in surprising ways once you get under the skin so to speak.

  7. INTP here with a couple of INFP friends. The thing with INFPs is that at first they seem very cool and kinda similar, but after a while the woo woo aspect gets annoying (no offense), after which I’ll have to go back to my INTJs and ENTPs to bask in the joys of reality for a while lol.
    A marriage would never work, a friendship maybe if kept very low key.

    1. I agree, infps can be very woo-woo and a bit off with the fairies or even of their rocker. But I do believe now there are mature INFPs out there who could make it work with an INTP, or perhaps an INFP who is very close to the Thinking function. Thank you for your comment. 🙂

    2. I would have to agree. The logic aspect is quite small. No matter how much fact you can bring to them, they will disregard it and continue with their ideal belief, even though they have been proven over and over that what they believe NEVER happens.

  8. I’m an INFP and my husband is ESTP. We are first love for each other and we are together for 14 years right now. However we are very different, we are the real soulmates. I find it interesting but in Russian socionics INFP (called Esenin) and ESTP (called Jukov) are the duals and have dual type of relationship. This means that they complete each other and are kind of soulmates. Dual type is usually seen uninteresting for the first time, but if you get closer you will find a truely soulmate with whom you can be just yourself and feel safe.

  9. Hello, fellow infp here! I love your blog and posts but can I share an opinion? I don’t really agree with any of these statements. I know it’s okay to disagree, and I support and love you (even without knowing you…is that okay?) but maybe if it’s just your opinion on the people with the types you think they have you shouldn’t publish it under the umbrella of all infps. Is that mean? I’m sorry if it is. I’m just wanting to help people not be stereotyped and feel understood….
    anyway I thank you for your delightfully infp thought candy posts!!
    -Fae, an infp pseudonym

    1. Thank you so much for disagreeing with my post. I wrote this post a couple of years ago and it was for fun and based only on the types I’d personally encountered in my life, so please take it with a grain of salt! I’m so sorry if I stereotyped any personality types in any way. Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and take care. ❤️

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