How INFPS View The Other Personality Types

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Here’s a list of how INFPs get along with every other personality type. If you’re not familiar with the Myer-Brigg’s personality test, you can take it here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

INTJ

What a strange and peculiar creature. Fascinated by science, and logic, with unparalleled ability to insult without intending to, with the excuse that they are simply stating the “facts”, the INTJ is someone the INFP does not really understand. However, being both introverts, and intuitive, on a certain level, they can get along; they both share a need to stay by themselves for long periods, and can have insights which other people do not. However, it would be a superficial friendship at best: the INTJ is simply too logical and pragmatic.

INTP

INFPs get along rather well with INTPs. To us, INTPs are rather like us, except a little more pragmatic and logical. Like INFPs, they tend to be eccentric, and rather loner-like, and sometimes, unlike INFPs, have obvious presentation and sartorial problems. However, we tend to like the same things, and find the same things interesting—glow-in-the-dark jellyfish, anyone?—and the same types of books and films.

ENTJ

Oooh. What a masterful and interesting creature—from afar, at least. ENTJs, for INFPs, are the epitome of the dazzling man or woman we could never date in real life, but whom we enjoy watching from afar. They are so confident, so charismatic, that it sometimes takes our breath away; but they can also be brash and intimidating, which makes us want to shrink into our shells. They are like the prince or princess leading an army of supporters, never to be touched, and only to be watched.

ENTP

ENTPs, for INFPs, are also rather attractive. Their verbal sparring, often on intellectual or logical topics, knows no bounds, and INFPs are entertained by their wit, cleverness and the verbal wordsmiths they are. In turn, ENTPs, if they ever get a chance to read an INFP’s writing, find them rather insightful and adorable creatures, but never enough to get into a romantic relationship with them. This is because INFPs hold none of the verbal wit and excitement that ENTPs need to feel good about themselves and a relationship in their life.

INFJ

Trouble is, people who are too similar can clash, and this is sometimes what happens when INFPs and INFJs meet. We’re rather like the same person, only one is a little more organized and less scatterbrained than the other, and strangely enough, that combination can make for a relationship that doesn’t seem to work. I’ve known one other INFJ in my life, and while we did agree on nearly absolutely everything, there was no connection or affection in the relationship: in fact, it was rather awkward and on edge, simply because we felt as if we could read each other’s minds, and probably could.

INFP

Well, I know INFP isn’t exactly another type of personality, but there are other INFPs in this world, and we do tend to meet each other every now and then, and, in general, if all goes well, we tend to get along like a house on fire. Rather than feeling awkward or as if our minds are being read, we feel as though we have found a kind of friendship-soulmate. However, since we are both Feeling, feelings may be discussed a little too often in the relationship, to the point where boredom sets in. If that happens, all you have to do is remember the positives of the relationship: of being understood, having someone who always has your back, and someone who is full of the same neuroses and anxieties you are.

ENFJ

ENFJ’s are OK. Just OK. They are bold, they are extroverted, they are friendly, love to be surrounded by people and the centre of attention, and for INFPs, they can be a little too “in your face” sometimes. Just sometimes. What’s more, ENFJ’s have an annoying habit of trying to draw an INFP out of his or her shell, and make her do things she doesn’t want to do, like throw a 21st party, for example, or make a speech in front of many people, simply because they feel INFPs need to put themselves out there a little more. So, in general, they are just OK.

ENFP

ENFPs are absolutely wonderful creatures. Since they share all the same functions as us, except for introversion, they are, in essence, really rather like extroverted versions of ourselves. Instead of being closeted away inside bedrooms, however, ENFPs are out there, getting things done, putting their ideals into action, and making things happen. If they want to run a charity for their favourite cause, then it is going to happen. If they want their dream to come true, then they’re going to build it. They are brave enough to put everything on the line for their ideals, and see them through to the end, to the point where their idealistic visions exist in reality—and us INFPs, while we love them, are just a little jealous, because we tend to dream but never act.

ISTJ

INFPs and ISTJs do not tend to get along. ISTJs find INFPs to be a little too wishy-washy, and too stuck in their own dreamland, while INFPs find ISTJs irritatingly logical and pragmatic, to the point where their daydreams and ideals get trampled by them. They are not a good match, in general, and rub each other the wrong way more often than most.

ISFJ

INFPs like ISFJs. As the “defenders” in the Mye-Brigg’s personality type group, INFPs see ISFJs as people that will protect them in times of need. INFPs like to be protected; we are, after all, the children of the Myer-Briggs family. So, we kind of look up to them as an older sister or brother, sometimes in spite of their age. They are the ones who will listen to us, and then propone our ideas in front of other people, working towards causes that we believe in.

ESTJ

We admire ESTJs, little ones, but we do not befriend them. ESTJs are whirlwinds of productivity and pragmatism. They are leaders, they get things done, they are efficient, and we view them sometimes the way one might view a very efficient, highly effective and super efficacious robot. In fact, we admire them so much, we’d much rather sit back and let them do most of the work that we dislike: managing people, telling people what to do, organising events and activities, putting forward ideas for consideration. However, in terms of relationships, INFPs and ESTJs simply do not see eye-to-eye, and any bond, be it romantic or platonic, is sure to end unfavourably.

ESFJ

Like ENTJs, we sometimes admire and view ESFJs from afar. They are such warm, people-friendly, and oftentimes attractive individuals, with such a wide network of friends, that it can sometimes be intimidating just to watch them. However, ESFJs are often happy to welcome the sweet, gentle INFPs into the folds of their social circle, and while INFPs won’t get along with everyone, and will often disappear halfway through the event or party, they are grateful for the ESFJ’s kindness, warm-heartedness and friendliness.

ISTP

INFPs do not understand ISTPs. They live entirely in the world of things, of reality, and love to engage in hands-on activities, whereas we are much more concerned with the intangible, dreams, ideas and stories. However, like most other types which are very different from us, we tend to view them with a certain degree of fascination, and, yes, this can lead to romantic attraction, although ISTPs, like INFPs, do not understand us, and find us rather strange and removed from life.

ISFP

We love ISFPs! They are adventurous, creative and bold, with a certain flair that makes us want to whoop! They are often very creative artists or musicians, and can be very unique and special, in their own way, just like INFPs. However, they are a lot more bold than INFPs, and can engage in risk-taking behaviours, which is something foreign to us, and we would rather discourage rather than encourage in our ISFP friends.

ESTP

ESTPs are…nice. They very popular. Very adventurous. Very bold, and pretty, or handsome. Very charismatic. All in all, they’re a bit too “much” for us. While ESTP’s appreciate the creativity of INFPs, they often get bored of us, of our ideals and our many, many dreams and ideas, while we, over time, get tired of the high energy of the ESTP, and want to crawl away to take a nap somewhere. So, overall, a bad match, in terms of relationships, but there is something the two types can share.

ESFP

Another strange and foreign creature. They are extroverted, and always want to entertain other people, not feeling at all afraid when they are in the limelight. Us INFPs simply do not understand them, not one bit: though we do appreciate the heart and feeling they put into everything that they do, the love they have for other people, and the way they are free-spirited and unique, never letting other people or society tie them down or tell them who they should be.

 

 

 

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15 thoughts on “How INFPS View The Other Personality Types

  1. I am not sure about your assessment of the INFJ. I think that really depends on who each individual is, and what their personal experiences are. The INFJ and INFP are not similar at all as far as their cognitive functions. The only thing in common there is the introvertedness. I (INFJ) personally have come across an INFP that was everything I had always looked for in life. But then, we both are much older and we have had a lot of experience in failing relationships and by far found our similarities to be a god send. Maturity has a lot to do with relationships, that and the willingness and ability to communicate. When you find that other person, regardless of MBTI type, it is a recipe for a long lasting journey.

    • You’re completely right. It does take maturity for anyone to get along with anyone else, regardless of their type. However, from my personal experience, and based on the experiences of other INFPs on the Internet, there are sometimes clashes between the two personality types. Thank you for reading. 🙂

      • Everyone is different. I have an INFJ friend, best friend actually. She means the world to me as I know I mean the world to her too. We’ve been friends for 15 years, we’ve grown up together, had each other’s back… We clash sometimes, but I can assure you, having an INFJ in your life is wonderful,, specially if you share same tastes and hobbies. (Also I believe my mom’s an INFJ, and of course I love her despite all our different points of view about almost everything)

    • I completely agree with this. I have an infj cousin, who if we weren’t cousins we probably would be best friends. As an infp myself, we are also wildly different, she is so stuck within dominant ni that she brings out the extrovert in me. weird. I also feel like the description for enfp was off, sounded like extroversion was mistaken for judging. Take for example an ISTJ will get a lot more work done than an ESTP maybe it’s different with fi though, I’m not an expert on functions. Great post overall though 😊 awesome to get different perspectives, especially on stuff like this that are hard to pin down.

      • Definitely! We are not trapped by our types—any type can get along with other types. This post was just about the stereotypes of the different types, and the fact that, in the iNFJ case in particular, many INFPs found themselves clashing with that particular type. Have a great day. 🙂

  2. I am an INFP I have a friend and roommate for the past 7 years . We’re tight and we get along great. We both understand each other and seldom have issues. I know the can be a bit bossy and emotionally detached, but I’d do anything for her .

    • Thank you Ben, I’m so glad it was accurate! 🙂 Yes, people can clash with ISFP’s, but generally that happens because we’re both artistic types, only ISFPs tend to be a bit more bold and louder about it, and that similarity can create some friction. Like does not attract like, in this case.

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